It seems to me that in current times, most people are operating as friends in fallacy. In this context, fallacy is taken to mean "Deceptive in appearance". It becomes more apparent the more you hang out with people... The majority of the human race makes for really shitty friends!
A friend of mine recently told me that they really enjoyed hanging out with me because they could be themselves around me without fear of me thinking less of them or judging them. That made me feel really good inside, but at the same time it made me sick. I would hate to see some of the people who call themselves friends, only to put someone down and make them feel bad about themselves to the point they try to hide who they are as a person! That is another thing I have noticed a-lot of lately, "Friends" who put other friends down, say nasty and hurtful things about them, just to make themselves seem cool or to make other people laugh. Depending on the friendship, this can be perfectly acceptable and taken in good humor, but for the majority of people, it hurts! Oh, and if you don't know your friends well enough to know that if you make a slightly dark humored joke about them, if it will hurt them or not, where the fuck have you been? Be a better friend!
Another thing I love is "Fair Weather Friends", another form of Friends in Fallacy. Any of you guys have those friends that only come around when they need you, be it as a form of entertainment because they are bored, or because they actually need your help with something? I have had a fair number of them over the past few years, and I will name one just because I dont give a fuck about him anymore: Anthony Figueroa. I remember we used to hang out almost every day. I ended up hooking him up with a nice starter car for $700, taking him out to practice for his road test, and taking him to get his drug test so he could get a job. All I got in the end was a giant "Fuck you" because of a small prank. One of my true friends stepped in and stood up for me, reminding Anthony that I was a good friend, but in the end I was told to dump the true friend who had stood up for me. Well sorry Anthony, it doesn't work that way! In short, be careful with people who never seem to be there when you need them. You will get taken advantage of, its just a matter of how long you get strung along.
In spite of all this recent turmoil with friends, I have one closing statement to make. Throughout life, you will have many friends. Over time you will realize that some of them matter, some never mattered, some of them will disappear, but you cant stop making new friends. You may go through hundreds of friends, but there will be some good friends that will stick with you forever, and if you don't look, you will never find them!
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